March 28, 2016
Take a moment to think about all of the things that we as ladies can do. You can think of a lot right? Which is great. However when it comes to wanting to be with a man who isn't ready to be with you or even wants to be with you...there is nothing you can do that will make him want to be with you. You can do everything for him: cook, clean, be his arm candy, give him the goodies, give him the key to your house, access to all of your business, amongst other things. When it boils down he still isn't going to be your man because he's not ready to commit for whatever reason. And really why should he? You've given him complete access to your life without him having to commit. He's got the best of both worlds, he's still single and can do what he pleases, but comes to you so that he can have his "needs" met. He's never going to think "Oh no, I'm not going to take that from her because I haven't committed to her and a relationship". What you offer to him freely he isn't going to refuse. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? YOU are setting YOURSELF up to get hurt...BAD! You have to care about yourself more than you care about him. Love yourself enough to know that you deserve better than that. You deserve someone who isn't afraid to commit to you, someone who will put aside their wants and desires so that the two of you can be together and be happy. You deserve that! You're worth that! You have to know deep in your heart that you deserve better. If he doesn't want to commit to you, and give you the security of being in a relationship, then you have to stop doing those things for him. Don't cook, don't clean, don't be his arm candy when he needs to have someone pretty with him, omg don't give him the goodies, take your key back, and change any information that he has access to. He's made up his mind, and you need to show him that you've made up yours. It's going to be hard, but stand your ground. Most times as a woman we can change our minds easily, but men aren't that way. If he says he doesn't want a relationship, or he isn't ready, believe it and learn to be okay with that. When I say learn to be okay with it, I don't mean stay around and keep doing the same things. I mean learn to be okay with it from a distance, give yourself time and space to heal. You've invested your heart and feelings and it's going to take some time to heal, but trust me. YOU ARE GOING TO BE OKAY SWEETIE! He can't have his cake and eat it too, so don't let him!
I know my worth, do you girl friend?
It IS Well so Be Brave